{"id":322213,"date":"2021-07-21T11:26:00","date_gmt":"2021-07-21T17:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/secretenergy.com\/?p=322213"},"modified":"2021-07-19T17:26:43","modified_gmt":"2021-07-19T23:26:43","slug":"why-avoidant-and-anxious-partners-find-it-hard-to-split-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/secretenergy.com\/why-avoidant-and-anxious-partners-find-it-hard-to-split-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Avoidant and Anxious Partners Find It Hard to Split Up"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Why Avoidant and Anxious Partners Find It Hard to Split Up\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/e9EgUvfgojY?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Fractious couples are often made up of one party who is &#8216;avoidant&#8217; (hiding their intimacy needs) and one who is &#8216;anxious&#8217; (nagging and pressuring counter productively for their intimacy needs to be met). These couples go through cycles that run from cosiness to fury to sulk to blow up to cosiness. Why do these cycles happen and why are they so hard to break? What might be a better way forward?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Fractious couples are often made up of one party who is &#8216;avoidant&#8217; (hiding their intimacy needs) and one who is &#8216;anxious&#8217; (nagging and pressuring counter productively for their intimacy needs to be met). These couples go through cycles that run from cosiness to fury to sulk to blow up to cosiness. Why do these cycles &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/secretenergy.com\/why-avoidant-and-anxious-partners-find-it-hard-to-split-up\/\">Continued<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":323901,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"subtitle":"","web1url":"","linkedin_url":"","fburl":"","twitterurl":"","instagram":"","youtubeurl":"","tags":[],"ratings_average":"0","ratings_users":"0","sc_name":"","sc_title":"","sc_description":"","sc_social_links_instagram":"","sc_social_links_secretenergy":"","sc_social_links_youtube":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[969,4515],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO Premium plugin v21.5 (Yoast SEO v21.5) - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Why Avoidant and Anxious Partners Find It Hard to Split Up &#8226; Secret Energy<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/secretenergy.com\/why-avoidant-and-anxious-partners-find-it-hard-to-split-up\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Why Avoidant and Anxious Partners Find It Hard to Split Up\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Fractious couples are often made up of one party who is &#8216;avoidant&#8217; (hiding their intimacy needs) and one who is &#8216;anxious&#8217; (nagging and pressuring counter productively for their intimacy needs to be met). 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